Lately there have been a few people questioning and doubting All for She.
Which in turn has made me doubt my blog and myself. I took a little month-long hiatus to get re-inspired and remember why I started this blog in the first place.
All for She began with the premise of being inclusive for anyone who uses the pronoun “she” regardless of age, sexual orientation, skin color, or size. This blog embodies everything I stand for. I made myself a vow when I first created All for She: be authentic, real, and relatable. Let’s be honest. I work full-time and I drive a Kia. Relatable AF over here.
Just in case you need more proof…. Here’s a little behind-the-scenes action on All for She shoots. Prepare to get a six-pack from laughing at my complete awkwardness….. My poor McLain has too much patience for me. I literally never stop talking or tripping over my own feet. It’s fine.
P.S. There are bugs outside. Lots and lots of bugs.
P.S.S. Listen to the words. Maren Morris gets me.
As my 23rd year comes to a close this week, I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting over the past year. It’s been a tough one– so much growth and learning. I’ve been thinking back on things I’ve discovered over my short life. There have been heartbreaks, joyous reunions, unconditional love, hard lessons learned, and several times I’ve hit my knees asking for help + guidance. I’ve learned five truths over the years and I definitely learned them the hard way. I wanted to share them as an inspiration to you and a reminder to me. No matter how down I get or how much my life has taken a different path than what I planned, I know I’ll be just fine. And you will be too. Here’s to catching our second wind!
1. Be honest.
Honesty is the key to any good relationship no matter who it is with– significant others, friends, or family members. I’m not talking about always telling the truth. I’m talking about something even harder…. Being honest with yourself. Take a look at yourself. Do you see who you are clearly? Or are you trying to cover up something, pretend something about you doesn’t exist? Well stop it. Own it. Put an honest face forward. Don’t ever ever ever pretend to be something you are not.
2. Be selfish.
Yep, you read that right. There have been so many times in my life where I have hurt myself just to make someone else happy. I have found myself unknowingly seeking out people who need me or the ones I think I can change and they end up taking up so much space in my heart I lose myself. There has to be a happy-medium between helping others and looking out for yourself. The selfishness never has to be mean or hateful. But you are the ONLY person who knows what you want out of life and who you want to be. If you are not in the right space around the right people doing the right things that will ultimately make you happy, let it go. Let the people, situations, and negativity GO. Be selfish and take control of your life. It’s hard, but we have to do it. I’ve learned to do things for ME. To do what makes ME happy. To do what is best for ME. No one, and I truly mean no one, is worth settling for or worth making you lose sight of your own convictions. You are allowed to be selfish. Remember that.
3. Be loyal.
Stick up for others and stick up for yourself. That’s right y’all, you can have a backbone. Loyalty is the quality I most respect in people. It means sticking to your guns when it comes to friends, family, beliefs, and values. Being loyal goes along with being real and authentic and honest. I strive to be the same person I am alone as I am in front of a group of people. Know what is important to you and stand by it regardless of how others make you feel.
4. Be a Light.
We all struggle with this, myself included. Pray when you don’t feel like praying. Be a source of constant encouragement to others along the way and help build up other’s confidence– whether it’s starting a blog to promote body positivity or telling a friend their ideas are valid and inspiring. Remember God’s Grace in the hard times. Radiate His positivity and compassion to those around you. Get out of your own way and let God’s love shine through.
5. Be there.
Last but not least, be there. Take those .5 seconds to text someone happy birthday, to tell someone you’re praying for them, to check on your best friend’s little boy who just had surgery. BE THERE. Make the effort to slow down in your day-to-day life and think of someone else. That includes showing up. Come home when your cousin asks you to do her prom hair and makeup. Go to a beautiful wedding when you really should be studying. Stay out too late celebrating with your best friends when you have to be at work in the morning. Go and do and live and be.
Bodysuit: Stone Cold Fox
Denim: Free People
Lips: STILA in Biscotti